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Good Reads: I Love Warwick’s and Me Before You

One of the many reasons I love independent book stores is that you don’t have to go by gold stars to guide your purchase.  Instead, you get to talk to real people at Warwick’s; people who can give you their personal opinion as to what they loved reading and suggest a list of books that align with your tastes.  Plus, you get to actually meet some of the authors at their monthly events!  Unfortunately, your advisors aren’t always right.  However, you do get the pleasure of indulging yourself by holding a real book in your hands, smelling the newly printed pages, and making notes in the margin to your heart’s content!  Yes, I was a literature major and just can’t help myself.  Here are my latest reads from Warwick’s:

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Me Before You by Jojo Moyes:  I was mad when I finished this book.  If I were a more empathetic person, I would have been happy for Louisa and Will.  I won’t spoil the ending, except to say that it is a happy ending.  It just depends what you mean by “happy.”  In short, this novel is a love story between two people who couldn’t be more different.  Will, once the dare-devil and man-about-town, is now confined to a wheelchair as a quadriplegic.  However, it’s not simply a wheelchair; it’s a quality of life that of which is quickly deteriorating.  Louisa, on the other hand, couldn’t be more ordinary.  Of course, it’s rare that anyone goes through life without their own defining moments and Louise hides her scars under shockingly eccentric clothing.  When Louisa is hired as Will’s caretaker, she sets out to show him how fulfilling life can still be for this man who can no longer bathe, wipe, or feed himself.  Will, on the other hand, sets out to help Louisa realize her own talents and potential.  It’s a novel that shows how love can change a person and, at the same time, must allow a person to make their own path in life and in death.  Ah, and there’s the rub.  This book won’t leave you unchanged.

After hearing Jojo Moyes speak at Warwick’s, I became an even bigger fan of Me Before You.  Insightful and clever, it was incredibly interesting learning about how Moyes created such a believable cast of characters.  Plus, it was just plain fun to hear about how other characters (ahem, the annoying boyfriend) were inspired by people she’s met (ahem, perhaps a former annoying boyfriend).  Her background as a journalist proves to be an asset in presenting a contraversial topic in a compelling; yet, unbiased way.  I’ll definitely be reading her next novel!

The Night Circus by Erin Morgenstern: I loved this novel from the first sentence.  Such was the addiction that I gave true homage to the title be using all my free time in the evenings, and sacrificed many a night’s sleep, to immerse myself in Morgenstern’s fictional world.  This is also a love story, but a much different kind than that of Will and Louisa.  In TNC, Celia and Marco are recruited as children to train as magicians in order to and face-off in the most beautiful and imaginative venue – Le Cirque des Rêves.  Simplifying this novel to just that one sentence is trite; however, there’s no concise way to express the intricate plot.  I will instead clarify that this is not a battle between good and evil.  Rather, this is a battle of talent, ingenuity, and beauty…of which the end result is meant to be the death of one of the competitors.  Morgenstern moves this novel beyond simply a game to an illustration of the power of secrets, words, and stories.  That’s the real magic  Anyone who believes words matter will fall in-love with this story.

The Art of Fielding by Chad Harbach:  I hate to end this review on a bad note; however, I will summarize my feelings by quoting my notes from the top of chapter 37, “What has happened so far?”  Mind you, that was 261 pages into a 512 page book.  This novel promised to be The Novel of Our Generation!  It’s a New York Times Book Review Best Book of the Year!  Oh my, my hopes were high.  Wow, was I let down.  Indeed, it’s well-written; but, that’s the best I can say about Harbach’s effort.  The relationships are unrealistic, I didn’t care about the characters, and, for crying out loud, how does a novel pertend to be empathetic, supportive, you name it, of a homosexual relationship when it applies a lame stereotype to one partner and makes the other partner almost seem predatory?  Yes, I get that Harbach must be an expert on Moby Dick.  No, I haven’t read MD.  I thought about picking it up right after I finished TAOF, however, I needed to clear my head from this novel to give MD – a true classic and literary icon – its due.

Let me know what you thought about these novels (without giving away the endings!).  I’d also love to hear what you are reading!  To read a Book Club post, please click here.

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Children Portraits: The Whitaker Girls and Ellie

Okay, I need to balance out that last post with some photos! What better way to do that than with some portraits of the cutest blonds I’ve ever met. Please meet these cute little Whitaker sisters…and Hill cousin!

Anabelle:  Annabelle is the kid who held it together during the entire shoot.  She listens to her parents and always made sure to look at the camera.  I’m guessing she get’s straight A’s and colors within the lines.  Yeah, my kind of girl!

I think it’s always a debate for parents as to whether or their kids should wear their glasses in family photographs. When they are as cute as this purple pair, I say yes! However, it’s nice to be able to focus better in on those pretty eyes, too!

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Mary Jane: After a little TLC from daddy and mommy, Mary Jane made a full recovery from cutting her poor, little toe on the beach and gave us some smiles. I have to applaud Auntie Erika for getting these kids to laugh. Mary Jane is your sweetheart middle child and I think I might just steal her name for Sproul Baby #2.

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Whitney: Whitney Whitaker – With an awesome name like that, I think Whitney will end up as a news anchor on a major network. I used to be surprised that I always got my favorite portraits from the youngest child; however, they just end up giving me most of their attention and the most honest looks. I just love these!

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Ellie: It took Ellie almost the entire session to warm up to the camera, so I went a little heavy on the portraits. She’s the Whitaker’s cousin. My cousins are like sisters to me and it’s easy to see that Ellie feels the same way about her girls. What a treat to get to spend a week with them while they visited San Diego!

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This is what happens when parents tell their 2-year-old to do their “booty dance!” Cutest thing I’ve ever seen on a shoot! Yeah, I really got to know what kind of parents my friends are…the fun kind ;)  I love how Ellie really uses her arms to move her tush side-to-side!

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April 25, 2013

Erika Hill - such cute commentary Aimee :) great pics, great hard-working photographer too!

Book Club: Gone Girl

This is also a post I wrote last year.  My book club fell apart and I had no one to talk to about my most favorite novel of the year, Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn.  So, I sat down, put on my Nerd Lit Hat, and wrote my own mini-analysis.  I had wine while doing it, so it was almost like a book club.  C’mon, how many of your  book clubs have turned into a girl’s wine night?  Yeah, that’s what I thought.  I should clarify right here and now that this is not a review.  The plot will be spoiled in this series.  I will also be posting reviews, however, those will be entititled Book Review. 

Book Club: Gone Girl

Gone Girl Book Club: Gone Girl

If you haven’t read Gone Girl, stop reading this post and go purchase Flynn’s latest novel.  You may also want to cancel all social engagements, because you won’t want to put it down.  I mean, this brought my “The Walking Dead” marathon to a screeching halt.  Not since Barbara Kingsolver and the Poisonwood Bible have I read a story that provides first-person narratives from different characters that are whole unto themselves.  Moreover, the characters are nuanced and interesting, the storyline is compelling, and there’s a believable (albeit disturbing) ending that tucks all the loose ends in neatly.

Like I explained, this is not a book review; it’s a book club.  Okay, fine, a book club of one.  Me.  But, feel free to join in by leaving a comment.  I promise to not take anything personally.  Wait, that’s a lie.  I probably will take it personally; however, I will be mature and respond as if I were not offended that you don’t think all my insights are anything less than brilliant.

For this first Book Club, I thought I’d do a brief character analysis.  I had written more, but I can barely make it through the entire orinal piece.  Believe it or not, here is the abbreviated version.  Even if no one reads it, I was just so happy to be drinking my wine and typing away like the happy, little nerd that I am!

Character Analysis

Mmme, let’s start with….

Nick 

Oh, poor too-good-looking-for-his-own-good Nicholas.  I vacillate between feeling sorry for Nick and thinking that Go is right, he’s just as sick and twisted as Amy.  I don’t think that it’s the baby that keeps them together.  Rather, it’s the fear that his own kid won’t like him.  He pictures “Mother whispering, whispering lies into that tiny pink ear” and, therefore, confesses, “ I deleted my story.”  Ah, yes, the ultimate revenge on a journalist: Taking away his story.  However, it’s worth it for Nick because signing up to play the role of perfect husband to Amy guarantees that he will be his best self, a perfect husband and father.  Thus, he will never succumb to his worst fear:  Ending up like his father.  Yeah, that’s a tad cliché; but, Flynn’s novel makes it way more interesting than just an “oh, I might end up like dad” syndrome.  Don’t you agree?   

Still, I worry for Larry Nicholas.  I was holding Avery as she slept while I started on the last couple of chapters.  Poor baby girl had been teething and most likely sick with a cold (how do you tell the difference sometimes?)  all week with a cold and holding her ensured that she would sleep better.  You know, so that I could finish my book!  I’m a very selfless mom like that.  So, as I’m reading the incredible and chilling conclusion, I started reflecting on my own marriage.  I mean, calling Amy crazy is oversimplifying this incredible character.  Sure, she sounds loco en la cabeza when she says things like, “Love should require both partners to be their very best at all times.”  However, how often do we expect just that from our partner?  Just yesterday I kidded with Seth that he should know what I want for my order from Puesto, a local take-out Mexican joint, and that I really worried about “us” when he ordered me things like fried cheese and huilacochtle.  It’s a little inside joke.  Sheesh, I never realized how dangerous those were!

Avery was in a pretty deep sleep by the time I finished thumbing through the epilogue.  I held her up and held her close, her warm cheeks resting on my shoulder, as I swayed back and forth while patting her back.  It had been a rough several days for me and baby girl.  Earlier that day, I called Seth to say hello and check on his flight arrival that evening.  He had had a great work trip or, as I like to call it, vacation.

Your sweet husband is on the last day of a work trip during which he has enjoyed good food, time with family and friends, as well as several nights of uninterrupted sleep.  Meanwhile, you have been eating whatever was easiest to scarf down while holding a fussy baby, away from friends with little ones, and getting up several times during the night.  When he starts telling you about his trip, you

a)       Are happy for him, “how wonderful that you got to spend time with family and friends before work started Monday.  What a special treat to eat slow-roasted pulled pork that Pete spent all day smoking in his new Green Egg!”

b)      Let him know nicely that you are happy he will be back to help with the baby, “wow, it sounds like you pulled some long days at the office.  We’ve had our hand full here, too, and are excited daddy will be home to help with bath time tonight.  Would you mind going into work late tomorrow so that I can catch up on some sleep?”

c)       Start a passive-aggressive ramble about things that have nothing to do with why you are actually annoyed, “I don’t see how you’re gonna fit all those bikes in the storage closet.  The hallway is a mess.  Blah blah blah” all in a perturbed voice.

 

Answer)  A or B would do, but I did C.  I wasn’t happy.  I was tired, worn out, and more tired.

Sure, I would have preferred if Seth has just said he had had a nice time in general and spent a lot of time working so that I wouldn’t have felt like Avery and I (That’s the correct grammar) had missed out on a fun little vacation.  Yeah, it made perfect sense for him to share the fun details of his trip.  But, tired new mommies don’t make a whole lot of sense when they haven’t had a good night sleep in days/weeks/months.  Truth is, it probably wouldn’t have mattered what Seth said, I still would have picked a fight.  Of course, I had the good sense to call him back and apologize.  I knew I was being unreasonable.  Seth came home to a smiling wife.  But, Nick?  He can’t even say the right thing before baby makes three.  “Just wait until Nick meets post-partum Amy,” is all I could think.  “Poor guy is dead already.”

Amy:

I like Amy.  Admit it, you do, too…at least a little bit.  No matter what you think of her, by the end of the novel, you’ve got to give the woman her due:  Amy is just plain smarter than everyone else and (almost, more on this later*) always one step ahead.  Flynn does an especially excellent job of using Amy to highlight the normative values that society places on women with Diary Amy.  Likable and kind, “She’s easy to like,” Amy explains, noting, “I’ve never understood why that’s considered a compliment.”  She’s the Cool Girl that takes on the likes and dislikes of her boyfriend, feigns interest in his hobbies, and lets her boyfriend get away putting her second anytime he feels like it.  To the men who date the Cool Girl, Amy yearns to explain,

“You are not dating a woman, you are dating a woman who has watched too many movies written by socially awkward men who’d like to believe that this kind of woman exists and might kiss him.”

The women who pretend to be Cool Girl are all the worse because, “They’re not even pretending to be the woman they want to be, they’re pretending to be the woman a man wants them to be.”

Except, oh wait, when Amy rises above all of the roles women play and reveals “Actual Amy,” she a psycho-bitch murder who has cut her teeth by driving her best childhood friend to suicide and accusing an ex-boyfriend of rape.  And her final trump card?  She got pregnant.  Granted, technically, one could argue that she did it without submitting to a man.  Still.  It’s the ultimate cliché of female manipulations; I’m pregnant, so now you are stuck with me.  Forever.  Also, I might kill you, turn your child against you, or worse.  Yeah, not exactly a feminist role-model.

Go:

Margo, Nick’s explains, is the “one person in the entire world I am totally myself with.”  Twins, they “spent nine months back to back, covering each other.  It became a lifelong habit.  It never mattered to me that she was a girl, strange for a deeply selfishly conscious kid.  What can I say?  She was always just cool.”  Cool!  Margo was actually, genuinely Cool Girl.  Sure, their relationship gave the impression to their high school friends that they were involved in twincest.   I spent most of the novel waiting for Go reveal that she is in-fact gay.  Okay, she was a little boring and a bit of a pushover.  But, like I said, she’s the Cool Girl for real!  She loves her brother no matter what, no If’s about it.

Detective Boney:

Why is it that the one woman who figures out the truth, despite all of the convincing lies and manipulation, is dead ugly?  On one hand we have Amy, who Nick describes as the, “first pretty girl I ever dated, really dated.”  On the other hand, we have Boney who was “surprisingly ugly—brazenly, beyond the scope of everyday ugly.”  Sheesh.  Lucky for Boney, Nick has an “affinity for ugly women,” who include all of the women from his mother’s side of his family, including good ol’ mom, because, “they were all smart and kind and funny and sturdy, good, good women.”  Not cool, but good.  Girls should be good, after all, right?

I like that the villain is the beauty and the hero’s a far cry from the Disney-esq dark, skinned villain with an accent.  Still, it’s a bit unfair that the good girl is also the ugly girl, right?

Andie

Many thanks to Flynn for staying far, far away from the Madonna-Whore characters so many authors (mostly male)

Betsy:

*The anti-feminist character.  This woman runs away from an abusive relationship and then punches Amy in the face so that she can steel her money.  So, she’s a doormat for her boyfriends and physically abuses her so called friend.  Plus, Betsy is such a 1950’s name, right?

 

Okay, just one more bit for the literature nerds out there…

Inside Jokes

Inside jokes play a key role throughout the novel.  If Nick had been in on the treasure hunt inside jokes, they would probably still be living in NYC, happy as a clam (Lobsters?).  Well, anyway, I love when authors include details that reveal what can only be (or what I’d like to think) are their little pet peeves and quirks.

The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle: 

It’s the book Amy suffers through on her and Nick’s honeymoon while he devours thrillers.  Have you read The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle?  I have and I will fully admit that I set it down about ¾ of the way through and picked it up about 5 months later out of sheer determination to get through the increasingly weird plot and cast of characters.  If you’re reading this, I hope you already finished reading Gone Girl.  A thriller.  That, if you are like me, you completely devoured.  Both are about a wife who mysteriously disappears one day, after which husbands realize they never really knew these women at all.   I mean, both couples even have a cat.  See!  Inside jokes are fun; but, only when you “get it.”  Otherwise, you end up just getting super annoyed at a novel that keeps making allusions to Moby Dick, a whale of a novel  that you have no intention of ever reading.  But, that’s a book club write-up for another day.  So, my point is:  No wonder Amy was so angry with Nick for not being able to get any of her treasure hunt clues based on inside jokes he doesn’t get, and no wonder he just wanted to give up.

 

Well, that concludes my first Book Club.  Hope you had some wine on-hand and enjoyed this little break from journaling ;) 

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April 25, 2013

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iPhonography Part 1: Five iPhone Camera Tips and Tricks

Editor’s Note:  Uh, so, apparently, I wrote a whole little series on taking photos with your iPhone and never posted them.  I was going to trash them, but then I looked at the little photos I took of my Button and it seemed a shame to just toss them aside!  I was obviously behind the 8-ball on taking photos with my iPhone.  If you are, too, this post if for you!  If you are a pro like my friend, Ashley (@shackstagrams), then you could probably give me some tips!  I welcome all comments and suggestions!  xoxo

If you follow me on Instagram*, you will have surely noticed the influx of photos on my stream.  I realized Lynda.com (my favorite website for online learning) had released a brief tutorial on photography and editing with your iPhone.  I had always wondered how professional (and not so professional photographers) I follow got such beautiful photographs.  So, I began an all-out geek-out on the iPhone camera and various editing apps.  There are so many ways to get creative and I thought I’d share what I had learned so far with a series on iPhonography.

Let’s start with the iPhone camera:

Five iPhone Camera Tips and Tricks

*All photos are taken with my iPhone 4S with the iOS6 update.*

1.  The Apple earphones work as a shutter release!  Just hold up your iPhone camera and let it find the center focal point.  Then click on the + or – key for the sound control on your earplugs.  This is useful if you want to:

  • set your iPhone up on a tripod and need a remote shutter to avoid camera shake (Wow, aren’t you fancy?!).
  • take a shot that requires you to hold your phone at arms length and out to the side.
  • not be so obvious about taking photos when you are out in public.  You can pretend you are talking on the phone.  I tried this out yesterday…

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2.  The volume buttons work as a shutter release.  This feature comes in handy when you

  • don’t have your earphones and want take a  photo with your arm stretched out (and/or to the side).  It’s just less awkward :)
  • ask someone who doesn’t have an iPhone to take your photo.  For some reason, telling them to press a button is easier because it’s just like a regular point-and-shoot camera.
  • need to keep a better grip on our phone while taking one-handed photos.  Think holding squeaky toy above your iPhone to get your kid to look at you while you take her photo.

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3.  There’s an AE/AF lock.  Ha, who knew! (Obviously, not me).  Just touch the focal point on your screen until the blue box pulsates and let go.  You will see the AE/AF Lock on the bottom of your screen.  This way, you can recompose your shot while keeping your subject in focus and correctly exposed.  Tap your screen again to unlock the AE/AF feature.  (This works with the iPhone 3GS and higher).

  • AE/AF stand for Auto-Exposure/Auto-Focus.
  • To understand more about exposure, I’d suggest reading The Pioneer Woman’s posts on What the Heck is Aperture Part 1 and Part 2.  Ree Drummond does a great job of distilling otherwise complex information.

This was a great technique for taking photos of Avery at her new favorite place, the local park!  No editing, just the AE/AF Lock.  I also used my earphones as a remote shutter so I could look at Avery to get a good reaction :)

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4.  You can get a nice shallow depth of field.  You know, so you get that blurry background effect otherwise known as bokeh.

    • Tap on the object in the forefront of your camera so that the blue focus box light up.  Be sure to hold your camera steady for a few second to allow your camera to focus before snapping the photo.

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  • Alternatively, you can focus on an object in the background and make the foreground blurry.  This is most effective if the object/s in the foreground are very vlose to your camera lens.  You also need to have several feet between the subjects in the foreground and background.

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5.  Siri will access your camera.  Just say, “take a photo/picture/etc .,” and there ya go!  This is useful when

  • Okay, I have no idea when this would be useful.  Still, it’s kinda neat.

 

References:
About.com How to Use the iPhone Camera by Sam Costello
Lynda.com iPhone Photography, from Shooting to Storytelling with Richard Koci Hernandez
The Pioneer Woman What the Heck is Aperture? Part 1.

*You can find me under aimeedesiree.  I set my Instagram settings to private recently.  Avery is getting out of that babiness phase and I’d like to have a little more control over who sees all of the bazillion photos I post of her.  I approve people after I check them out a bit.  I mean, with all my tens of readers, I usually know you or know someone who knows you…or stalk your blog enough to know you are who you say you are :)

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April 24, 2013

Alex - Button’s expresion in the “peas” shot is priceless!! Great article…may I have your old iPhone? Or your new one if Siri ever gets on your nerves? ;-)

Family Photography: The January Family

I had the privilege of photographing my first Marine family this past winter.  Jenny and Jan January (Yes, those are their real names – love it!) are part of the Marine family serving and protecting the U.S.A.  I was looking forward to this shoot for several reasons, most of which was that I was excited about getting to include an Osprey aircraft in the photos.  I’ll admit, that part was great; however, I really ended up having the most fun getting to know the January family.  Jenny and Jan are the proud parents of three boys.  Everyone says boys are easier by the time jr. high rolls around.  However, in my opinion, three teenage boys should add another ribbon to Jan’s honors and earn Jenny a special medal for her bravery in mothering!  Luckily, I think Mitchell, Ethan, and Theo really did want to look good in their photographs, because those young men knew how to turn on the January charm.  Plus, the camera loved Jenny and Jan.  It ended up being one of those sessions that you want to download and edit right away!

Jenny – Thanks for putting up with the oddly frigid day in San Diego.  You looked beautiful in the photographs!  Jan was such a good sport and I think the boys’ mischievousness charm shined through!  It was truly an honor to capture these memories for your family.

Here are my favorites:

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Thanks, Kallie, for putting my name forward.  I don’t know how I’d find such kind babysitters, fun photography gigs, or great expert baby advice without you!

Jamila – You were the best assistant ever!  Thanks for all of your help!

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