We went up to Oregon for a wedding this past weekend. It was so wonderful. Beautiful and simple, it was set in the country about an hour out of Eugene. When we arrived, the bride and groom were just getting into their vows (Of course we were late! But, it was totally OK because we were safely tucked in with the group of parents with babies in the back.) The vows were filled with idealistic promises and realistic humor. I think my favorite line was when Ken said, “And I promise not to always understand you.” Of course, this was followed by his commitment to respect and honor his young brides’s feelings. Anna said all the things I wish I accomplished everyday in my marriage. All at once, I felt inspired and defeated. However, the pastor’s suggestion to Ken to hang on to the piece of paper on which Anna had written her vows got a good-natured laugh out of the congregation and reminded me that these are goals we have to work towards everyday. Thus, with a kiss, Ken and Anna were pronounced husband and wife.
I don’t really know this side of Seth’s family all that well, due to the distance we live from each other. However, I think even a perfect stranger would have found themselves in tears and fits of laughter during some of the most heartfelt speeches I have ever heard at a wedding. If I had to sum up all seven of the speeches, it would be with the following thesis: Family is wonderfully complicated. Your relationships force you to learn to love better, be stronger, and build each other up.
Talking of wedding speeches and not knowing people…I believe my father-in-law’s opening line for his speech at Seth’s and my wedding was, “I don’t know Aimee very well.” Frank! Okay, he didn’t really know me, fair enough. But, FRANK!
As we got up from our table to walk over to the gazebo for the first dance, I saw the most beautiful sunset I’ve seen in weeks. I immediately insisted that we take family photos. (Sorry, Ken! We did make it back for the line-dancing, if that counts for anything :) Here is my favorite of them all: Grandpa Frank with Avery. He can start out his speech at her wedding with, “I’ve known Avery since she was a baby.” Just kidding, Grandpa, we won’t make you give another wedding speech ;)
Here are some more sunset photos.